A
Abwehr, 206-8, 211-12
After Auschwitz (Rubenstein), 53
angels
Gabriel, 228-29
Moses and, 39
visitations, 227-28, 239, 241, 242, 257
archetypes, 128-32, 178-80
Auschwitz, 48, 53, 55
authenticity
brick wall experiences and, 56, 183
conflict with differentiation, 217
difficulties experiencing, 226
of the dying, 70, 193, 199, 224-25, 264
identity and, 200
repentance, 133
B
baptism, 179, 244, 246
Berkowitz, Eliezer, 52
bereavement, 61, 239
Bethge, Eberhard, 208
Bonhoeffer, Dietrich
Abwehr, agent of 206-8, 211-12
Confessing Church alliance, 202-5
formative years, 200-201
poetry of, 209-10, 213
Bowen, Murray, 216-17
brick wall experiences, See also hospice
authenticity and, 56, 183
blocking the future, 71-72, 94, 98-99, 100, 265
existential shifts, prompting, 41-44, 95, 259-60, 265-66
Holocaust, inspiring, 46-47, 56
individuation and, 130, 131-32
as metaphor, 22-25
repentance, leading to, 149-150
Buddhism
Christianity and, 65-69
death, expertise in facing, 62, 70
hospice, influence upon, 61-65, 69
Judaism and, 66-69, 161-62, 164-65, 250-51
on love, 176-77
Butler, Robert, 96
C
Callanan, Maggie, 227-28
caregivers, 79-80, 84, 94
case studies
Betty (grief), 86-90
Julie (symbolic language), 230-34
George (life review), 108-9
Hans ("Why me?” reactions), 29-31
Paul (repentance, life review)
aloofness, 115-19
archetypal journey, 128-29, 132, 143
behavior, new, 143-44, 148-150, 160
patterns, habitual, 126
help, request for 120-25, 127-28, 142
regrets, 145-47, 266
Ron (visits from deceased relatives), 234-38, 253
Susan (questioning identity), 213-15
chazakah (established way of being), 114-15
Christianity
Buddhism and, 65-69
docetism, 255
Holocaust and, 51-52, 54. 134-35, 202-5, 207
on Prodigal Son parable, 132-36, 140-41
teaching of contempt, 46-47, 48-51
threshold rituals, 244
Confessing Church, 202-5
contempt, teaching of, 46-47, 48-51
covenant, 50, 54-55
D
delirium, 242-43
denial
secrets and, 157, 216
terminal prognoses and, 17, 59-61, 68-70, 199
desert experience, 178-80, 187-88
detachment, 63, 177-78, 193, 263
Diana (Princess), 224
differentiation, 216-17
docetism, 255
E
Edwards, John, 182
Elijah, 248, 253-54
Erikson, Erik, 81, 194
existential questions, 43-44, 102-3, 189-190, 195
existential shifts
brick wall experiences and, 41-45, 95, 259-60, 265-66
separating before from after, 57
September 11 Terror Attacks, prompting, 10-12, 44-45
existential suffering, 22, 145, 177, 189, 217
Exodus, 179-180
F
Fackenheim, Emil, 54
Faith After the Holocaust (Berkowitz), 52
fear, 14-15, 160, 222, 224, 257
Final Gifts (Callanan/Kelley), 13, 227-28
forgetfulness of being, 41-43, 167-68, 218-19, 260
frameworks, 15-16, 129, 267
Frankl, Viktor, 188, 195-200, 203, 213
Freud, Sigmund, 15-16
future
brick wall experience and, 71-72, 94, 98-99, 100, 265
grieving, 83-84, 87, 265
life review, 96, 103-4, 110, 256, 260-61
living for the, 73-77
loss of, 78-79, 90-92, 177, 185, 263
G
Gabriel (angel), 228-29
Gerstein, Mordicai, 38
Gillman, Neil, 53, 245-46
God
Buddhism and, 66-67
deicide, 49-50
dying thoughts, 259-260, 262-63, 265
Holocaust and, 53, 55-56, 202, 212-13
in Midrash, 38-39
repentance, 133, 136-41, 160
theodicy, 51-52
trust in, 180, 250, 252
Greenberg, Irving, 54, 180-81
grief
case study: Betty, 86-90
from loss, 12, 80-83, 189, 256, 265
of the dying, 79-80, 84, 90-92, 94, 261
H
happiness, 63, 72-74, 80-81, 225
Harvey, Jerry, 220-22
Heidegger, Martin, 41
Hitler, 54, 182, 203, 208-9
Holocaust
as brick wall experience, 46-47, 56
Christianity and, 51-52, 54. 134-35, 202-5, 207
commandment, inspiring, 54
God and, 53, 55-56, 202, 212-13
identity, stripping away of, 186-7, 195
Isaac, Jules, research of, 48-51
theodicy and, 51-52
hospice, See also brick wall experiences
avoidance, 28-29, 59-61, 68-69
Buddhist influence, 61-65, 69
hypochondria, 36
Jesus likened to hospice patient, 248
NDA, 13-14, 228, 239, 257
Princess Diana’s attraction to, 224
spiritual lessons of patients, 70, 112-13
visitations from deceased relatives, 240-243
I
identity
authenticity, 200
case study: Susan, 213-15
chazakah, 114-15
desert revealing, 179
of Jesus, 49, 134, 249, 253-55
identity crisis, 194
questioning, 209-10, 213-15
rituals and, 180-81, 245-46
societal expectations, 173
stripping away of, 174, 186-87, 195-97, 199-200, 264
individuation, 130-32, 142, 178, 217
Israel, 46, 50, 53-54, See also under Rusnak, Kathleen
Isaac, Jules, 46-51
J
Jesus
covenant and, 50
desert experience of, 179
Jewish identity, 49, 134, 249, 253-55
premonition of death, 248, 250, 252, 255-56
rabbinic sources, 137-38, 141-42
Jesus and Israel (Isaac), 48-49
John (disciple), 248, 256
Judaism
Buddhism and, 66-69, 161-62, 164-65, 250-51
chazakah, 114-15
on repentance, 139-4, 149, 160
Holocaust affecting, 53-54
teaching of contempt, 46-47, 48-51
theodicy, 51-52
threshold rituals, 243-45, 251-52
Jung, Carl, 129, 130-31
K
Kelley, Patricia, 13, 228
kittel (white robe), 252
Kubler-Ross, Elisabeth, 112-13, 129, 165
L
life review
case study: George, 108-9
case study: Paul, 123-26, 132, 142-43, 149-50
characteristics of, 99-100, 103-5
of the dying, 102, 106-7, 110-11, 256, 265
for the living, 96-98
as part of NDA, 13
loss. See grief
M
Man's Search for Meaning (Frankl), 198
marriage, 82-83, 244
Midrash (rabbinic teaching), 38-39
mindfulness, 41, 43, 63
Moses, 38-39, 248, 253-54
N
Nelson, Portia, poetry of, 162-65
NDA (nearing death awareness), 13-14, 227-28, 239, 257
NDE (near-death experiences), 13-14, 238-39, 247
Necessary Losses (Viorst), 218-19
9/11 Terror Attacks, 10-12, 44-45, 97
Nostra Aetate (Vatican II document), 50-51
Nuremberg laws, 186, 205
O
Oprah Winfrey Show, 182
P
pain
acknowledging, 18, 60, 64-65, 125
alleviating, 123, 145-46
emotional, 23-24, 83, 92, 95
spiritual, 185
suppressing, 161
past, the, See life review
palliative care, 19, 28, 59
pastoral care, 29-31, 76-77, 121, 176, 190-92
patterns
archetypes, 129
of behavior, 111-14, 123-27
of living, 163-64, 262
of negativity, 142 -43, 161-66
responses toward hospice, 28- 29
of spiritual unfolding, 24-25, 267
Peck, Scott, 225
Peter (disciple), 248-50, 254
Philadelphia (film), 222-23
Pianist, The (film), 186
Pope John XXIII, 49-50
Princess Diana, 224
Prodigal Son parable, 132-38, 140-43
Promised Land, 38, 179, 187, 249
psyche, 15-16, 78, 129
R
regrets, 76, 103, 145-47 , 266
relatives, deceased, 13, 242-43
repentance, See also under case studies
Judaism and, 135-41, 149-50, 164
Prodigal Son parable, 132-38, 140-43
steps of, 156-60
as teshuvah, 115, 136, 140-41
retirement, 74, 76-77
rituals, 82-83, 180-81 244-46
Rubenstein, Richard, 53
Rusnak, Kathleen
Buddhism and, 62, 65-68
as chaplain, 68-69, 123-25
identity, sense of, 190-92, 194-95
in Israel, 134-36, 152, 174-76, 249
parents of, 34-35, 101-2
as pastor, 29-31, 76-77, 121
pens, fondness for, 150-160
on Prodigal Son parable, 132-33, 134-38
on specialness, 35-37
S
Sanford, John, 217-18
Schindler's List (film), 186
separation
before from after, 45-46, 57
brick wall experiences, 23, 25, 41
threshold rituals and, 244-45
September 11 Terror Attacks, 10-12, 44-45, 97
Shadow of a Flying Bird, The (Gerstein), 38-39
sin, 115, 139-42, 159
specialness, 31, 35-38, 57-58, 63, 70
Speer, Albert, 182-83
suffering
Buddhism and, 63
existential, 22, 145, 177, 189, 217
during the Holocaust, 46, 52
Sukkot (Festival of Booths), 180-82, 248-50
symbolic language, 22, 230-34
T
taboos, 57, 59
teaching of contempt, 46-47, 48-51
terminal prognoses, 11-14, 16-19, 22, 30-31, 100
teshuvah (repentance), 115, 136, 140-41
theodicy, 51-52
theology 46-47, 48-51, 52, 134, 138
threshold experiences, 15, 243-47, 251, 254
tikkun olam (repairing the world), 67
Transfiguration, the, 247-50, 254
transitions, 82, 164, 178, 244-46
Turner, Viktor, 244
V
Vatican II, 50-51
Viorst, Judith, 218-19
visitations, otherworldly
case study: Ron, 234-38, 253
hospice workers attest to, 240-43
NDA, as part of, 13, 227-28, 239, 257
vulnerability
difficulty with, 226
of the dying, 251
September 11 Terror Attacks and, 45
during Sukkot, 181, 250
in threshold experiences, 245
Y
Yom Kippur (Day of Atonement), 251-52
Young, Andrew, 182
Young Man Luther (Erickson), 81
W
“Why me?” reactions, 29-31
Wieder, Alan, 171
Wiesel, Elie, 55-56
World War II, 34, 46-47, 134, 201, 205-6